The Natural Aversion to Homosexuality

The other day I heard the most ‘provoking’ story, but later I considered it as ‘thought provoking’: Two guys were caught pants down doing themselves in the study room of a male hall. The whole male student population of the hall descended on them and beat them to a pulp, with their faces left of nothing but masses of red tissues. The worst part of the news was that they were not student of the university at all, but were strangers who had taken the advantage of the openness of the halls and their study rooms to perpetrate these sordid acts.

When I learnt of the story, I was equally disgusted as much as the boys that did the beating. I felt the strong aversion for such abnormal act, and I criticized alongside the students who had shared the story of the incident with me. I walked away still feeling very much the same until reasoning and sentiments took hold of me.

In the world of today where we worship actors, musicians and stars alike, who openly declare their homosexual nature, yet we find it hard to accept it among ourselves.

The case is simple, I will agree that they were wrong to have turned the study room (which they were not entitled to use in the first place) into a sexual arena, and for that they should be punished accordingly.

However, being severely punished, almost to a point of death, just because they do not agree with their sexual preference registers the fact that they are bullies and monsters of a being. It is the same people that will hum the tune of Sir Elton John and cheer at the act of Sir Ian McKellen (Gandalf in ‘Lord of the Rings’), but monstrous and hypocritical enough to beat two gay lovers up, not for their careless discretion but for their lack of ‘commonality’.

But I ask myself a question over and over again, “Why did I feel disgusted at first when I was told, was it cruel of me, or was it humanly instinctive?"

How to Prevent Internet Scam

Every facet of development has it pros and cons. So the advent of the internet should have its own share of disadvantages. Prominent among them, is the fraudulent acts that is perpetrated on the World Wide Web. Internet fraud is nothing but an on-line deception of a business transaction that will ultimately turn potential buyers/clients to victims of financial scam. Its purveyors are diabolically cunning and can out-smart the most intelligent of us all. They come in different evil guises all in a bid to lure us to them. Beware!

One of the types of on-line scam is done by direct solicitation. Here a “potential buyer” request to buy goods worth a lot of money using fake credit cards or Counterfeit Postal Money Orders; only for the hard-working salesman to make a cataclysmic loss that may make him/her bankrupt.

Another form is the Automotive Fraud, where the car sales person presents a “ghost” automobile for sale. Suddenly the ghost automobile is no more in stock, but the car sales person can get you its kind. However the desired automobile is in another “continent” and he wants you to pay for its shipment. There is neither a car nor a continental place, thus the expectant buyer is lured to pay for shipments that goes into the salesperson’s wallet.

It can even be romantic (dating scams) where you cannot really blame the victims. For it is said that the heart that yearns is gold. Here, the Romance chat rooms are turned into an arena for the sale of Love. ‘Lovers’ develops a heart-to-heart relationship with you for a while, and then suddenly they are in a state of dilemma (health problems) and need urgent medical and financial assistance. Beware it is all a lie. The only romantic language they know is currency and they will do all that is deceitful to get it from you.

Everyone is interested to watch the next football match, music concert, latest thriller at the cinema. But one can only end up being duped by these scammers. How? The answer is by selling fake tickets on-line in the name of the real company to consumers. And to add salt to injury, one is further harrased at the venue of the show for possessing a fake ticket.

Scammers also front graphical sites aimed at selling “ghost” retail goods. What they actually want is your credit card detail used in purchasing these non-existing products. And afterwards, you can be assured that they will buy for themselves real products at your expense.

There is also a recent one: Click Fraud. Where online advertising affiliates force you to click on ads which are generated by spywares. And due to affiliate programs, such as Google Adsense, where they pay large amount of commission; you can be assured that there will be an obvious large amount of remunerations going into their wallets. Don’t be fooled that this is a marketing strategy. It is definitely fraud.
As I said earlier: they come in different guises in the bid to lure you. These guises can be listed to an infinite degree.

Thus the important question is this: HOW DO YOU PREVENT THIS?

Provide little amount of information about yourself to an unknown website. Do not give your social security number unless it is necessary. If you have a bank account online, access it from links in search engines. Do not use the links posted on the website. Also share limited information about your personal life.

Ensure that your anti-virus software and firewall are on and updated to prevent unwelcomed access to private information on your PC.

You can also endeavour to report a scam case to the appropriate authorities on the net. It may never be too late to retrieve what is stolen.

Be cautious with spam mails. They are a reservoir of fraudsters’ invitations. Do not transact business immediately when you receive one. Make sure you confirm its legitimacy first before transacting.

Do not readily click links inviting you to buy or sell any product. It is advisable You should also confirm if a website is legit. A good guide to this is that the legitimate ones usually have their addresses, phone and fax numbers at the lower part of the page. If these present it is likely they are for real.

Do not use money transfer for payment. Because money via paid via this medium is not retrievable in a case of scam. However Paypal ensures for scam security.

And PLEASE, do not just trust anybody you meet in the chat room no matter how much they profess their undying love for you, and no matter the financial predicaments they are. It might be lies. Be wise.

How to Compliment a Woman

“Compliment” as an English word means a statement of praise and approval as well as a gesture of respect and honour. Having stated this, complimenting a woman embodies a whole lot more than we ordinarily think. Women like to be respected, appreciated and complimented as often as it can be done; they value this concept very much, and that is why it has to be original and carefully done. To me, a compliment to a woman is a white rose surrounded by lush green grasses. It has to be creative, true and beautiful. If it lacks these qualities, it becomes blemished, thus becomes an insult.

A beautiful woman knows she is beautiful, because she has been told many times before and she would be told several times in the future. Passing such a woman a compliment, one must make it different. Patience and study will yield a treasured remark from you. Most times, guys are always eager to pass on a compliment due to hormonal rush, and they end up saying something that is considered more or less a “noise” by the recipient, and this leads to low esteem on the part of the giver.

Therefore, I will reiterate that patience and study will yield a compliment that can only be nothing less than treasured. So instead of chanting the usual, “You look beautiful this evening”, one should be patient and study the woman for a while: her sense of style (from clothes, shoes, perfume... to make-up), mood and personality.

Your acquaintance with her also matters, a compliment is easier given to a lady one is well acquainted with; nevertheless it can still be given to a beautiful stranger that one knows little about. After quiet study on your end, there will be streams of ideas in your head that will yield a creative and original compliment from you. So instead of chanting the trite remarks, one can rather say: “Your perfume accentuates your beauty. What is it called? I do like to know if I can use it too.” This will probably make her smile or even laugh (especially if the perfume is feminine) and it may yield a prolong conversation between you two due to the question that ends the statement.

It is also important not to compliment a particular woman too often; this on the other hand may breed contempt. She may feel that your overly nice compliment is nothing but a sexual advance, for we guys know how sensitive a woman can be. One can do it during special moments by studying her and being patient. Compliments should never be phony, as I stated earlier it is something they value, hence they will know when it is fake. Compliments should come from the heart and mind to be original, creative and beautiful.

Complimenting a woman can also be subtly done. You can try not to be obvious about it. You can try to generate a conversation between you two on any other subject such as music, movies or art; and when she starts getting comfortable with you, you can then pass it on, catching her off-guard. I can state it for certain that she will definitely appreciate it within her heart of hearts.

I have partly stated this but I will fully emphasise it here. Complimenting a woman may not be based only on her physical beauty but can also be about her person and achievement. Compliment is also a gesture of respect and honour. A beautiful woman has been complimented innumerable times about her looks, so if you come about it differently by remarking about her inner person and her achievement, you can definitely touch her emotions. And this can only give her a thrill.

I will like to say that a good compliment is a way of getting the attention of a woman one is interested in. It can be a good way of getting the woman herself. Like the example given earlier, the compliment should ease on a conversation between you two. And If all is played right you can be on your way on getting a date.

We guys should not be fooled when a woman pretends not to take a compliment well. She wants to be complimented. She wants a reiteration of her own judgement after looking at the mirror in the morning. But she wants it to be done beautifully being creative and true.